Research (and common sense) tells us that older persons, those around them, and society benefit more and do better when strongly supported emotionally, physically, financially, and spiritually. Elder Mediation is a voluntary, cooperative process where an Elder Mediator facilitates discussions to assist those thinking about or faced with life’s stresses particularly possible in life's later life stages.
A Caregivers Guide by Robert Rhudy
As people approach or are living in the mid- to latter cycles of life, concerns or conflicts can arise about family businesses, living and housing arrangements, financial arrangements, caregiving, acknowledging and caring for the caregiver, relationships, holiday schedules, new marriages and stepfamily situations, possible abuse and neglect, need for possible guardianship and/or conservatorship, incapacitation issues, and, perhaps, end of life planning and decision making.
Ordinarily, before the first session, Joy will have spoken briefly with each person and professional who will be involved in the mediation. That helps everyone "get a feeling for” each other and, perhaps, voice concerns and possible issues.
Often, Joy meets with everyone at the Intake Session or first session. Then she will meet with everyone through out or separately and some times in a combination of meeting separately and together.
Often - and sometimes to the surprise of some or all involved, the elder person(s), family members or others involved in the mediation express opinions or ideas not heard or considered previously…adding more possibilities and further richness to the family and situational dynamics.
The plan is always to help build an environment to support the older person or persons as well as all concerned as best we can given what we have to work with...and to arrive there in as mutual, respectful, and cooperative process as possible.